You might be one of those people that are happily taken and couldn’t be and happier, or you might be single and can’t stop searching and asking “why?” Well, I think being single is a beautiful thing; it’s all about your perspective of it. In this season of being single, embrace your singleness and embrace every minute of just being you. Get to know yourself more, and go deeper in your relationship with Christ. This is just a season right now; it’s not going to last forever. As it says in Ecclesiastes 3:1, “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.”
Of course, we’re only human, we desire to be loved and feel loved, we want our heart to feel complete and satisfied and to give it to that special someone we love. I see many young women my age try to fill that void of loneliness with a guy, they get sucked in so quickly to “you’re beautiful,” “I need you,” “you’re loved.” Some girls need to feel wanted by a guy – they need a man’s approval, some get their confidence in that. You won’t be able to find your identity in someone else; it has to come from within. If you do, It becomes a never-ending battle and cycle because if that relationship doesn’t work out, you may end up feeling there’s something wrong with you. There’s nothing wrong with YOU – please remember that!
True love is not finding someone you can live with, but someone you cannot live without. Our identity is in our creator Christ, not in someone else. No matter how great a guy can be, he cannot give you that confidence. He can maybe help you a little bit in that area, and make you feel a little better about yourself, but you can’t rely on that 100%. Rather, you have to know who you are in God. Make sure, first and foremost, to find a guy who loves God and puts God first. This has always been one of my favorite quotes, “A woman’s heart should be so hidden in Christ that a man should have to seek Him first in order to find her.” When that’s the case, then he will be able to treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
You might be thinking, “I’m not getting any younger…when will I find the right one?” “Is there anybody out there for me?” Sometimes, it’s hard to wait on God, but you can’t give up! His timing is not our timing. His timing is perfect. I believe that the waiting helps to mold you and shape you into a better man or woman. This time allows you to focus on embracing the state of being single, and to concentrate on serving others. Waiting is an opportunity for God to show you His perfect plan for my life – this will help you become a better wife and mother or husband and father in the future.
In the meantime, if you’re at this point of your life where you’re single, and being patient waiting for Mr. /Mrs. Right, why not make a list of some things you’re looking for? That way, you can hold yourself accountable, you can look back at your list and ask yourself “Does this person that I’m interested in have this quality that’s really important to me?”
Ladies and gentlemen, never settle for anything less then you deserve, and don’t give up! God has the perfect love story for you, but are you willing to give him the pen and let him write it for you? Anything worth having is worth waiting for!
From 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” Let this be the love you’re looking for; let this be your prayer and declaration over your life! This has always been one of my favorite scripture verses, it’s what we need to be running after and focusing on. This is TRUE love, and this is what the world needs more of! Fill up on REAL love! Remember, the day of becoming a future husband or wife starts now, so set the bar high! If you aren’t happy being single, then you won’t be happy being taken. Happiness comes from within!
Remember: True Love waits!